I’m Baaaack

Hello and welcome back! I’m talking to myself with the welcome back part because you all have been right where you are supposed to be, and I’m the one who has been absent. A friend told me last week that she missed my posts, and I promised her I’d get on the ball, so here I am.  

I have to admit that it’s not because I’ve been super busy that I haven’t posted, it’s more like I’ve been in a rut. Has this ever happened to you? I think sometimes as we go on about our lives it’s easy for it to happen. Anyway, if you feel like sharing with me a “rut” you’ve come out of, I’d love to hear about it.

I have to share with you a way to make s’mores that’s got to be the easiest way ever to make them. With all the Easter candy in the stores, some of it always makes its way in my grocery cart. I always seem to find a carton of those Zachary chocolate covered marshmallow eggs. They are really cheap, and if you like a chocolate-marshmallow fix, you can’t beat them. I was going to eat one after lunch yesterday, and then it hit me to try putting one between a couple graham cracker squares and pop it in the microwave for about 10 seconds. I did just that, and delicious is all I can say…well a little sticky too.  

I’ve been wanting to add some other aspects to my posts that I hoped would be helpful and recipes was one, so let’s count that new way to make s’mores as the first. I know- wow, right? Well, you gotta start somewhere!

I’d also like to start sharing some things that I’ve found to be time savers as well as other ideas along those lines. Something that I do that saves me time and effort a day or two later, has got to do with cooking a little extra of something, like meat for instance, that I’m already cooking. When I pick out a roast to buy, I always try to get one as big as I can find. Now if you have a good sized family, this isn’t going to work as well for you. I cook the roast and then knowing I’ll have leftovers, I think of what I can make with them a couple days later. I do this with side dishes frequently as well and then when it’s time to make a meal, if even one dish is waiting to be used, it really seems to help cut down on time spent cooking. Who couldn’t use a little extra help at meal time?

Easter is upon us and I trust you find this a special time of the year. Millions of people buy Easter candy, decorations, etc., without giving a second thought as to why we have this holiday. For the believer, Easter is the time to celebrate the resurrection of Jesus Christ our Lord.

In the Bible, Luke 24:6 says “He is not here, but is risen: remember how he spake unto you when he was yet in Galilee,” and verse 7 in Jesus’ own words, “The Son of man must be delivered into the hands of sinful men, and be crucified, and the third day rise again.” Jesus knew what was coming but died willingly for you and for me. Believing that Christ died for you and also in His resurrection is a wonderful way to start a relationship with Christ if you don’t already have one. I would be glad to help you in any way regarding this; just let me know.

I hope you all have a wonderful Easter and remember God freely gave His Son for us and freely  gives His love to us, even when we don’t deserve it. What a tremendous blessing that is!

Until Next Time, God Bless


The Best Gift Ever

Greetings! The big day is almost here. Are you ready?  I trust you’re feverishly ‘wrapping up’ your final preparations (pardon the pun, I couldn’t help myself) in anticipation of your Christmas celebration.  

I was trying to think back to when I was a kid and what present stuck out in my mind that I was excited about receiving. The main present I can remember was a pottery craft set including a wheel.  I’m sure I had fun with it and do really still like things made of pottery.

No huge impression seemed to be made in my mind though concerning this gift that probably my parents put some thought into. Much the same way my kids would  think about most of the gifts given to them during their childhood, I suspect. Was thought put into their gifts? Of course. Were they life altering? Not so much.  

There is an incredible gift, and it’s the greatest gift, that very sadly gets lost among all the hustle and bustle of the gift-giving season. This gift is life altering, unlike so many others we receive, like toe socks.

God’s son, Jesus, came to earth so long ago as a gift to us. Jesus came as a baby as the Bible states in Matthew 1 verse 21 “And she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name JESUS: for he shall save his people from their sins.”  

It’s so easy to lose sight of the significance of what all this “festivity” really means.  We celebrate Christmas because Jesus was born to save us from our sins. He did this by dying on the cross for us and then rising from the grave three days later.

The life altering part is when we accept what He did for us as payment for our sins, confess our sins, and believe in our heart that He rose again, and our eternal destination then becomes Heaven. What a wonderful gift God has provided us if only we will accept it.

I pray that this all rings a bell with you and you will strive to make this your focus this Christmas season. If you haven’t received this “best gift ever,” I pray you will soon. Feel free to contact me if you would like.

Merry Christmas!!

Until next time, God Bless


What Do You Think?

In our society today, it’s very easy to get caught up in what others think of us.  I mean think about people taking selfies.  Honestly, just the word kinda makes me laugh.  I wonder how many are taken and then scrutinized before using.  Now I’m just as guilty, myself, of taking them, mostly when I’m goofing off and send to someone I can trust not to post it anywhere  though.

The thought I want to share is this:  when others think of me, what reflections do I leave in their mind?  Kinda scary, huh?

People form opinions about us from the very first meeting.  Lots of times that first opinion sticks in their mind about us for some time.  Wouldn’t it be great if what impact we made on other people’s lives was that of pointing them to God?

Before I had children I worked at an insurance company and was around the same people day in and day out.  I know they knew I went to church, but was I making an impact that could make a difference in their lives?  I want to think I did, and I invited people to church, but when they think of me, what will come to mind?

Then along came child number one.  Life forever changed!  And don’t worry Luke, I mean that in a good way.  🙂   Now here’s a life that we are directly responsible for pointing to God.  We took that very seriously.  But what does being serious about it really mean? To me, it meant helping this child, and the others that followed, grasp the concept that we belong to God and are supposed to strive to please Him.  So when my kids think of me, will that come to mind, or are there other things that stood out?  I hope it’s that I pointed them to God as often as possible.

Of the friends and acquaintances I have, when they think of me, what impact am I making? Down the road, when my grandkids think of me, will they remember that Nana loved God and taught them about His son Jesus?   I still have time to make a concentrated effort in this area, as I do, really, in every area of my life.

Matthew 5, verses 15 and 16 say “Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.  Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.”

Let today be the day that you and I think about all the people in our lives and what thoughts are left behind in their minds at the end of each day.  Let’s strive to be that light that points them to God.

I really would be glad to know what you think, so please feel free to leave a comment.

Until Next Time, God Bless



The Tongue and the Power It Holds

The tongue is a wonderful part of the body.  My first thought about my tongue is of the delicious foods it lets me enjoy.  Life would certainly be a lot less, shall we say, tasteful, without it. (Sorry I couldn’t resist.)  As a child, I distinctly remember using my tongue in another way.  It seems I had a bad habit of sticking it out, as I not-so-fondly remember standing against the wall with my tongue stuck out for what seemed like forever.  After a few times of that, I stopped.

Not a lot of thought is given sometimes, I’m afraid, to the way we use our tongues as it pertains to other people.  There really is tremendous power in the opportunities we have concerning our tongues.  Think for a moment about something someone said to you in the past that you have never forgotten.  It might be a thought that makes you very happy, or unfortunately it might be something that was very hurtful.  Possibly, it invokes feelings that go along with the words; that’s the power I’m talking about.

I have a little plaque hanging by my sink, so that I will see it frequently. It states, “Lord, keep Your arm around my shoulder and Your hand over my mouth”.  When I saw that for sale, I knew I had to get it for myself.  If God has taught me something in the past several years, it’s that I need to stop talking and pray more, and lots of times, pray before I talk.

Let’s think about a how our tongues do harm.  We all have so many different people we talk to on a regular basis.  I would venture to guess that we keep our tongues in check around most people.  I remember one time when my kids were a lot younger a neighbor boy did something, and I just responded withs “Oh, that’s okay”.  Now, had my own child done whatever it was this boy did, I would have responded in a much harsher fashion.  I realized that I talked to the people I loved the most, the worst.  That was a hard reality to face.  Unfortunately, in times of anger and frustration, things come out of our mouths that do damage to those to who the words were spoken or yelled at.  Sure, later we might say we are sorry, but just like a tube of toothpaste you accidentally squeeze too much out of, it doesn’t go back in the tube, and those words can’t be taken back either.  Potential damage done.  Did we mean to? Of course not, but does that mean it didn’t happen?  I don’t think so.

Now think about the way I handled the situation with the neighbor boy.  If we can be that way to people we aren’t even related to, then surely we can strive to be that way with people we are close to.  Just as sure as harsh, hurtful words do damage, words of forgiveness, kindness and thoughtfulness can show grace and love to people, especially those we love, when offenses or wrongdoing has occurred.

Sometimes in certain situations, saying nothing is the kindest response.  Take for instance, your husband, child, relative, or friend wrecked their car and they said it was because they weren’t paying attention. Obviously if they said that, they realize it was their fault.   Occasionally, our first response is to throw a bunch of questions at them, questions that will do nothing except make the person feel even worse about what happened.  Unless the questions are absolutely necessary, it’s probably going to be best to just not ask any when it will make no difference in the situation as it stands.  Our minds are very curious when it comes to the affairs of others sometimes, and if we aren’t careful limits are pushed and feelings get hurt.

Let me share a Bible verse from the book of Ephesians 4:29. “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace to the hearers”.  Since that pretty much speaks for itself, I won’t elaborate.

Another verse I have found helpful is Psalms 141:3, “Set a watch, O Lord, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips”. If this is an area that you know you have trouble with, I assure you you can get the upper hand.  Pray that verse.  I had to pray for God to help me to know when to close my mouth or to help me stop and think before I speak.  Of course, I still don’t always get it right, or I let my mouth get the best of me, but not nearly as often as it used to happen.  I have to admit it took me a long time to even realize there was a problem.  Those of you that are much younger can save yourselves some years of feeling guilty and get on top of it now and let wholesomeness be what flows from your tongue!

Until Next Time, God Bless



Train Up A Child…

The past several weeks my grandson has been in town and he and I got to have a wonderful time together, for which I am very thankful.  Now I absolutely love being a Nana, no doubt about that, but along with all that entails, I feel a huge responsibility also therein lies.  Going to the park, having treasure hunts, eating Tootsie pops together… all that is tremendous fun; but what I also want to share with him, as I did with my own children growing up, is that God loves him, has a purpose for his life and wants him to come to know His Son, Jesus.

I had waited a long time to have a child, not of my own choosing, and when I finally had this little, (no I can’t say that, because he was over 10 pounds) sweet large baby I was elated.  I was determined to do my best for him.  What that meant for me was, of course providing the necessities, food, clothing, shelter and, the thing that came most easily, love.  It’s love that gets us through those first weeks at home, getting thrown up on, losing sleep, changing diapers, and a whole new chapter of life.

I loved this child and wanted to do everything possible to raise him to be the best he could be, right?  What exactly did that mean?  I fed him nutritious food, kept him safe, taught him age appropriate skills.  This was all monumental to his future, but as a Christian I also needed to help him see the importance of God in his life.  The Bible has many verses pertaining to raising children.  I knew I had to teach him, his sister and brother that followed about the awesome Creator of them, and everything else in this world.

Proverbs 22:6 says “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.  So as much as possible, I poured things of God into them.  Even as babies I would tell them when we were outside that God made the sky and the grass and then next time ask them “who made the grass?”  When their little voice comes out with the answer “God,” that fuels the drive to keep up the task at hand.  As they grew, teaching them how to pray by doing something we called “STOP and pray” was a great way to keep prayer in all our minds.  When we would stop at a stop sign it would be one of their turns to name a person or incident and then pray.  Bible truths woven into their lives was what I was trying to accomplish.  It wasn’t constant because we weren’t perfect parents and  lots of times I had to apologize to my kids for my failures that came out right in front of them.  I believe telling them I’m sorry was just the right thing to do, if I expect them to be able to do the same thing.  I might add here that kids seem to always pick up on the things we don’t necessarily mean for them to, so be mindful that both good and not-so-good gets taught, whether we meant for it to or not.

See, the more you can get into them, I believe will help them as they grow up and get into situations that aren’t always, wholesome, let’s say.  If you’ve put God’s Word into them, it’s always there, I believe, even if it’s in the back of their minds and can come to the forefronts of their minds in times of need.  They aren’t gonna be perfect, because they are human and also, well  because they came from us.

I did, all that I did in pointing my children to God so that one day they would hopefully realize and accept what God’s son, Jesus, did on the cross for them and accept Him into their hearts.  Thankfully, they all did this, so now I can focus on the next generation in this respect.  As much as I wanted this for my children, the desire is ever so strong for my grandchildren as well.  And so continues the challenge.

I hope this will encourage you wherever you are in your journey to look at the children in your life, maybe not even your own, and find moments to point them to God thus fulfilling the verse that says, “Train up a child.”

Until Next Time, God Bless



Until We Meet Again-Dedicated to my Mother

This post has taken me a couple of weeks to work up to sitting down and getting it done.  I’d like to dedicate this post to my sweet mother who we recently lost due to a stroke.  We always knew the possibility was there for her to have another stroke, but that doesn’t mean that you’re ready.  Then when it happens, and the realization hits that it’s not one that can be recovered from, life as you know it seems to come to a halt, and a sort-of fog ensues.

Our focus shifted to loving Mom into her home-going with as much comfort and peace as possible.  She held our hands in the beginning of our lives, and we held hers as her time ended here on this earth.  We let go, but will continue to love her in our hearts.  We will miss her very much, but knowing that many years ago she acknowledged the fact that Jesus died for our sins on the cross and asked for Him to be a part of her life, her home-going I referred to was heaven, and there’s great comfort in that.

So where did I think I should go with this post after saying that?  Kinda perplexing, I must say as so many different thoughts went through my mind. The Bible verse that kept coming to me was James 4:14, “Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow.  For what is your life?  It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.”

This is a pretty familiar verse and I’m sure you’re familiar with it.  Even as I type this, I’m still trying to decide which direction to take.  Really, there are lots of thoughts that could come from thinking about the fact that we have no control over exactly how much time we have in life.  Once you’ve lost someone dear to you, you realize just how valuable time truly is.  Life is valuable and much more so how we use that time.

The importance I would like to focus on deals with the fact that we as Christians would do good to stop and think about striving to use our time to help others come to know about Jesus.  As I said above, it gives me comfort to know that my mother realized that it was what Jesus did on the cross, and our acceptance of it that secures our place in heaven.  Lots of people today still don’t realize that, and so we need to be a person that shares Jesus with them.  We live in a world that sometimes points people to “being a good person” is good enough.  It’s not the reality of what the Bible says though, and we must have a boldness about us to help people understand.

Another good use of time would be to be that encouragement, we all can use at times.  We are bombarded today with negativity from every direction.  Our kids, our husbands, friends, family members and everyone we come in contact with can be lifted up by some kind words that can come out of our mouth. Do the people we know and love know that they matter to us?  I sure want them to know that they do, how about you?  I’m pretty sure I’ve said something along these lines before, but I can’t stress enough the importance of this and really how easily it can be achieved.  At the end of the day when you think about how your time was spent, if you’ve tried to accomplish one or both of the above mentioned points, you’ll be able to smile knowing you made a difference in someone’s life and were, at the same time, pleasing God.

I will forever remember precious time spent with my mom and special memories.  I love you mom and it’s not goodbye, it’s until we meet again.

Psalms 90:12:  “So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.”

Until Next Time, God Bless



Clutter to Clarity

Happy Spring!!  I love springtime with all the beautiful green that starts showing and seeing the flowers pop their little heads above the ground.  The weather starts to warm up, or at least it will eventually, the baby bunnies are born, and if you live by a pond you just might catch a glimpse of the ducklings swimming around with their mother.   What a wonderful time of renewal and regrowth and a fantastic showing of the beauty God has created.  Psalms 19:1 says, “The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament sheweth his handywork.” His evidence is everywhere!  What a fantastic time of year.

This is also the time when you hear people talk about doing spring cleaning.  Don’t you wish this was the only time of year we had to clean?  I mean really, it never stops.  I supposed spring cleaning  meant things like cleaning windows, porches, etc.  I was curious about what it really means so I looked it up.  Here’s what the dictionary said: “a thorough cleaning of a house or room, typically undertaken in spring.”  So much for what I thought it meant.  Well, now you know, for whatever that’s worth.

Part of cleaning sometimes includes clearing out clutter.  For several months now I have been making it a point a few times a week to find an area that could use some attention. It might be to clean out a drawer, or go through stuff on a shelf, or everyone’s favorite, clean out a closet.  I find items that usually are not needed anymore and give them away or throw them away.  It’s so refreshing to look in a drawer that has recently been organized or a bookshelf that’s nice and neat.  The difficult part for me is getting rid of things…sometimes.

Take for instance, I’m currently in the process of removing the 4-inch square white tiles from the shower area in one of our bathrooms.  The last couple of  times that I have worked on tearing them off I found myself looking at perfectly good tiles that I just couldn’t resist keeping some of.  What am I going to do with them, you ask?  I have no idea.  I just know they will come in handy later…for something…useful or… well you get the idea.  Anyway, the point is we, or at least some of us, constantly want to hang on to things.  That’s not always bad, because some stuff comes in really handy.  It’s just figuring out where to draw that line.

You know, there is a good parallel here as far as clutter goes in our lives also.  It’s easy to keep things hanging around in our hearts or minds that really aren’t helpful or good.  In fact, they are quite the opposite.  Do you harbor hard feelings toward family members, friends, or co-workers?    As believers, we grieve the Holy Spirit when we do this.  Ephesians 4 says, “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice (v. 31): And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you (v. 32).”  I wouldn’t  want to be described as that first verse, would you?  I’d much rather let the second verse be what I strive to do, and I trust you would as well.  Let’s strive to get rid of this type of clutter and have clarity of heart in its place.

Another reason springtime is special to me is because it was this time of year, actually April 7th, many years ago that I realized my life was not my own and that Jesus’ life was given as ransom in my place.  I am thankful for His dying on the cross as payment for my sins and for His resurrection from the dead, as we just celebrated last week. I was not looking for Him but am so glad that He came knocking on my heart’s door and took a lot of clutter I had in my life back then and turned it into clarity to guide my future as I have lived striving to please Him.

Until next time, God Bless,



Time Well Spent


Last week my five-year-old grandson was in town for seven days.  Anytime I was able to spend with him during those seven days was treasured.  I’m using treasured in this instance meaning “something of great worth or value.”  That’s how I felt about my time with him.  Treasured may seem like a strong word to use, but we are talking about a grandchild here. : )  I made good use of that time as well as the time prior to his coming over by doing housework or whatever so I could focus on him while he was with me.

We all have the same amount of time; that’s nothing new.  How we decide to use that time varies from person to person and situation to situation.  When my children were little, I can remember times when one of them was in a hard stage, like not sleeping all night,  teething, or there was more pottying in their pants than the toilet days, you get my drift.  During those times, I don’t remember that I said it out loud, but I thought to myself, that I would be glad when this hard stage passes.  Now 28 years later, I’m wondering where all that time went.

Back then, I tried to make the best of my time, I think.  Honestly, I’m not sure how much focus I put on time to always make  sure it was well spent.  I mean it didn’t cross my mind the same as it does now.  Looking back, if I’m honest, I’d have to say that there were times I should have stopped and played a little more often or read one more book.  Sure, there’s a hundred things that you need to do, but your kids are gonna grow up way faster than you can imagine,  and there’s always gonna be laundry, right?

I mentioned about spending more time with children while they are growing up in the midst of our busy lives, but there are other people, as well, in our lives that we might take for granted that they will always be there to go visit.  When we think about this in reality, we know that’s not always the case.  Time spent with loved ones usually isn’t something we regret, it’s the time we should have spent and didn’t that we regret.

James 4:14 says “Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow.  For what is your life?  It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.”  We can’t predict or control the future, so therefore we have no idea what tomorrow holds.  Our lives go by so quickly that sometimes we miss out on making the most of our time.  I want to make sure I’m not guilty of this and I hope you do as well.

Who of us would come right out and say we waste time?  But we do.  Usually we don’t think of it as wasting time, valuable time at that.  We let bad moods, anger, or other negative aspects control our mind, thus wasting that time while we are in that frame of mind.  I’m not saying we should never be upset, but if something’s happening that we can’t change, there’s no sense wasting time worrying about it, is there?  There are other time robbers we allow in our lives such as TV and our phones as well.  No need to go into detail there, I’m pretty sure.

Wouldn’t you agree that life is a huge balancing act?  Time seems to be one of the hardest aspects in this life to balance.  Sometimes all it takes is a gentle reminder of what’s really important to us- that being our loved ones, friends, and other people in our lives.  Striving to stay on top of this on a continual basis will help us to not have regrets down the road.  This will be time well spent.

Until next time, God Bless,



This Little Light of Mine…

You’ve probably heard that song “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine, this little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine, let it shine, let it shine, let it shine.”  I’ve sang it countless times with my children and grandson without thinking about how important “our light” really is.

Philippians 2:15 says, “that ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world;”  Wow, did the importance of that song, mostly sung by children, smack me upside the head after reading that verse.

No doubt, we are living in a “crooked and perverse nation.”  Sometimes it’s easy to be a party to the thinking that all that is going on is bad.  It’s very true that there is a lot of bad going on, but we don’t have to let that squelch down the “light” that is in us.   What is being a light, you may ask?  It’s striving to have the brightness of a diamond that points others to the God that made them and loves them.  This is not to say that you are perfect, because none of us are, but that your striving to please him and doing your best to show his love towards others.  If we’ve lost that shine we once had, just take a look at our lives and see where we are slipping and then confess sin, if necessary and get back on track.

This is so important in all of our lives, but especially being a wife and mother.  Our families need us to be strong light bearers, for their good.  In fact, we as women can be tone setters in our homes, jobs, circles of friends, and bring that light out anywhere we are.  I know you’ve heard the phrase, “if momma ain’t happy, nobody’s happy.”  Well there’s some real truth in that.  Isn’t it true that if we are in a bad mood, everyone knows it?

The verse right before Phil. 2:15, v. 14, says: “Do all things without murmurings and disputings.”  This would be a great place to start when it comes to being a light.  There are lots of things to murmur and dispute about, but doing so makes that light, that can shine bright, go very dim, and then we become not much good as light bearers.  We should focus on our real reason for letting our light shine, that being, v. 16: “Holding forth the word of life; that I may rejoice in the day of Christ, that I have not run in vain, neither laboured in vain.”  We are to live to glorify God and do good unto others, directing them toward Christ.

When we realize that in everything we do, we are doing it to let Christ show forth in us and pray to be used that way, God is in that desire and will help you when you pray and ask.

We can be different this way, a difference that others see; but it points them to God and not to us.  When we have that positive attitude and joyful spirit because we want to make a difference in other’s lives, we will make a difference, and our lights will shine.

Until next time, God Bless


The Power of Encouragement

Isn’t it a great feeling, especially after a busy day, to have someone tell you, “that meal was delicious,” or “wow, the house looks great,” or “thanks, Mom for coming to my spelling bee,” or those sweet words out of that two-year olds mouth, “I wuv you.”  It just does something inside us that gives us that encouragement we needed.

I imagine some of you are thinking, right about now, that you would pass out onto the floor if some of those comments were said to you, right?  I totally understand.  We know how good it feels when someone encourages us with kind words; it inspires us with hope that we are doing a good job.  There’s real power behind those words that let a person know you’re backing them up.

Now, we may not hear these words as often as we may like to, in all reality.  BUT, if you can push that aside and focus on Proverbs 31:26 that says “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness,” we can become a powerful encouragement to our husbands, children, family members, co-workers, and virtually anyone we have interaction with.

It’s so easy to get caught up in our day to day lives and just do what needs to be done without really thinking about how we are doing it.  In our hearts we, of course, want to be using wisdom in what we do right?  And then, of course, we want everything that comes out of our mouth to be kind, right?  Believe me, I know from my own failures in this area that this isn’t, most of the time, what happens.  It’s extremely hard to be encouraging when someone tracks mud across your freshly mopped floor.  I guarantee you lots of times the “law of kindness” did not come out of my mouth.

To be that encouraging and empowering person we want to be, let’s look back to what the Bible verse said.  “She openeth her mouth with wisdom.”  One way to interpret that would be to think before you speak.  That takes practice I can tell you from experience.  Then apply the second half of the verse, “And in her tongue is the law of kindness.”  Ouch, that hasn’t always happened either. That’s pretty self explanatory. Trust me, through prayer and practice, these are both quite attainable, most of the time, anyway.  I’ve also learned, (this is one of those things, ladies, that if you start now, you can save yourself lots of let’s say discussions) there are times to just say nothing.  Sometimes people need us to just listen and not say anything.

Wives, our husbands need us to be their cheerleader, if you will,  and not focus so much on their shortcomings, or those habits that he’s had ever since you married him.  Let the kind words come and resist the negative.  By doing this, we empower our husbands by boosting their confidence and draw them closer to us.

Moms, our children need our positive reinforcement and praise as much as possible.  Simply rephrasing and turning a negative comment into a positive one can make a difference and then you don’t feel like you’re always “on them.”  This empowers them with a confidence to want to please you.

Ladies, whether we’re married, have kids or not, we all have opportunities where we can encourage people.  When we reach out to be an encouragement to others,we are not only building their confidence, but our own confidence as well, which in turn encourages and empowers us.